As a girl thinks so she is...

For the past couple of months I have been examining my thinking and despairing because the thoughts I have seem to be far removed from the kind of thoughts God wants me to have. The Bible encourages us to think like Jesus who lived a sinless perfect life. That tells me Jesus, unlike me, must have had his thoughts sorted. Our thoughts are very important. What we think determines how we feel, behave and what we say. For example if we have judgemental thoughts about others, our words and deeds will reflect this.

The Bible tells us that as God’s thoughts are higher than our thoughts so are his ways also higher. At that point we could give up and decide we are never going to think like God. However, I believe God wants to renew my mind and transform my thinking so I have his thoughts. Then I will start to love people like he does. One way God requires me to love people is to show mercy but it is very hard to be merciful when one has judgemental thoughts. I need my mind renewed so I view people with mercy instead of judgement.

I have been reading a few books in my quest for wisdom as to how to change my thinking. I found one written by Firestone, Firestone and Catlett called Conquer Your Inner Critical Voice which has been very helpful. They identify that each of us have a inner critical voice in our head that controls much of our decision making and the way we respond to situations.  Many of us are unaware of it chattering away, as it is a well established part, of who we are. The voice is destructive, critical, accusing and false and often overrules the good we feelings we have about ourselves. 

If you doubt whether you have a voice like this try and discover what you are thinking the next time when something unexpected, embarrassing or disappointing happens. The chances are your inner critical voice will surface at this point to give you its demoralising perspective.

The critical voice is a system of thinking patterns we developed in childhood while we were learning how to cope with life.  It is made up of the conclusions we drew about ourselves from the way our parents treated us, the negative feelings our parents had towards themselves and each other, our parents view of life including the things they did not talk about which we absorbed by osmosis and the defence mechanisms we developed to help us deal with painful and stressful situations.

These thinking patterns became the way we learnt to respond to the different life situations we faced. It is our enemy because it will try and sabotage our true selves; the person God has called us to be. For example God may have gifted me with the ability and desire to be a brain surgeon. If I fear failing because of past experiences which led me to conclude I am a failure, there is playing in my head a little voice telling me not to be absurd.  I am not brainy enough to  pass the exams necessary. Therefore I never have a go at becoming a brain surgeon.

Often at work and in our relationships we revert back to the thinking patterns we developed as children to protect us but these old defence mechanisms can limit our ability to do well at work, handle success and relate well to others. It is vital we learn to recognise the inner critical voice and develop a new positive and creative voice if we are to achieve all God has called us to be and do.

There is no doubt that God has done a radical work of renewing my mind and transforming  my thinking in many areas BUT he wants to do more. I recognise that even though my inner critical voice is not nearly as influential as it used to be, it still has far too much say in the way I react. There is a lovely Bible verse in 2 Corinthians 10:4,5 that recommends we demolish the thinking patterns that set themselves up against us knowing God. That is a scary thought that my thinking patterns can limit my experience of God but I believe that is what the inner critical voice does. It is a series of thinking patterns that need demolishing and replaced with God’s thoughts which are truth and loving.

Now it is just a matter of identifying the times the inner critical voice is still at work and breaking the habit of thinking by reassessing the situation in the light of God’s truth and focusing on that.

Sounds simple really….